I believe there is great love available for us here. I believe we are meant to love one another fully, openly, deeply, completely and immensely. 

And I do not limit love to just romantic love. 

I believe that deep down we all long for the experience of living with our hearts wide open. 

Happiness comes from love coming out of you. 

However – there are barriers and blocks to that love. 

We hold onto past resentment. 

We cling onto the need to be right and prove the other person was wrong, at the cost of our inner peace. 

We have things left unsaid between us that bother us. We judge each other. We criticize. We blame. We have not yet fully forgiven the other for their mistakes. 

Every negative thought or judgment you ever have about someone blocks your capacity to fully love that person.

Forgiveness releases so much power to love. 

There is so much love available for you when you forgive those that have done you wrong. 

You can choose to cling onto past resentments towards someone OR you can choose to experience peace of mind.

You can choose to be right or you can choose love.

You can’t have both. 

Forgiveness however is NOT something you do for someone else. You do it for yourself. You forgive to experience the fullness of giving and receiving love.

Then… 

How do you forgive someone when the memory of their unloving action is so strong in you?

How do you let go of the anger & resentment when you feel like holding onto it? 

How do you look at them lovingly again when your desire to judge them for their behaviour is stronger?

 

Forgiving is not about approving what the other person has done, but about changing your internal perception about it – so it no longer affects you in the present moment.

It also doesn’t mean you agree with what that person did – it just means you let go of the negative emotions surrounding that event.

Remember each person is already doing the best they can. At any given time we are acting to the best of our ability.

We are all humans and we are all allowed to make mistakes. 

So when you understand our limitations as human beings, you remove your expectations for the other persons to have a flawless behaviour.

Forgive all the persons that hurt you at one point or another.

Because…

No one gets to the end of their lives thinking: I wish I stayed angrier longer. 

They generally say: 

I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.